Sunday, October 22, 2006
I enjoyed myself yesterday. Haven't seen Olivia and Yiqi for a long time, so it was nice to see them and talk to them. But I think the highlight of yesterday was the guys serving the girls. Haven't had that experience before. It felt very good. We should have that more often:) especially since the girls would be mentally and physically drained due to the mounting workload.
The Indian food I had yesterday was really good too. I love their roasted chicken, curry and beehoon. They are my all-time favourites:) I indulged so much that I did some exercise this morning. Had to especially since I gained some weight recently. Not sure why though since I'm not eating alot recently.
Anyway I decided to bore everyone because I am disturbed by 2 things:
I'm currently trying to write the 6000 word academic paper for Japanese studies. the issue we are examining is Ijime, the Japanese word for bullying. I was just reading thoroughly all the sources we had and I am very disturbed by the forms of bullying in Japanese schools. In Singapore, we have students who commit suicide due to academic pressure. In Japan, about 10 students successfully committed suicide every year due to bullying. The forms of ijime can be quite shocking like sexual harrassment (stripping the victim in front of every one, tying a female's skirt to her head), physical assaults like putting a burning cigarette on the victim's skin also known as ‘konjoyaki’ and lynching (also, ‘kagome rinchi’) which entails the victim having to kneel on the floor and being kicked and hit by the bullies, who encircle him, as they sing a children’s play song ‘kagome kagome’. The most common form is to stage a funeral for the victim, complete with incense and flowers and the students will sign on the condolence card, with words like "May you rest in peace". And some teachers even participate too. I think it is more like abuse than bullying.
The second thing that is bugging me is this question a friend in my writing module asked: why are girls so sensitive and insecure? He quarrelled with his girlfriend and another girl in the class teased him, saying that it must be because he bullied the girlfriend. Then we started talking about how girls are so sensitive. But why are girls involved in a relationship so insecure? Big deal if the boyfriend talks to a female friend. it's not as if the boyfriend is kissing or hugging the female friend. I don't understand, most probably because I never even had the chance to experience it, not that I'm upset about it. So maybe Jy, Py and Sy can enlighten me. I mean if you don't trust the boyfriend or think he's cheating on you then just end it. Why prolong your and his suffering and the suffering of your friends who have to listen to your ramblings? Why does the girl even feel insecure in the first place??? The guy dated you for a reason. it's not as if he had no choice, so why do girls think he is also interested in other girls? It's so senseless. Or maybe because I'm a heartless and harsh person. Perhaps.
I'm done with all my ramblings. If I've wasted anyone's time reading this, I offer you my sincere apologies:) Hope to see everyone soon. Good luck to kian (hopefully you will get to be a pilot). And I will continue writing and writing and writing. I'm sure I can even write an essay in my sleep. Oh, and good luck to Man U too!!
kx
rmb to sign off! sang at 1:03 PM
